Children's Emotional Needs

  All people but especially children should have learned manners and should be using them.  I think a large part of the problem is the parents that the parents today forgot their manners so they don't teach their children.  I have done some research and studied what time period it was when people started to change and not be so polite or not care about manners or how they dressed.  I hate to say it but I think it started in my generation or a little bit after that.  It seems that people that are a few years younger than I am maybe born in the early 1980's are the problem.  I think that is also when the grunge period came along when these kids were in their late teens or early 20's. I believe the 1990's is when a lot of things changed.  All I can figure out is that the 1980's is also when women became more independent and they started working more instead of staying home with the kids.  I think the fact that the kids did not always have a parental influence around them and they had to sometimes come home to a empty house.  I have read a great book called "Hold on to Your Kids" that tells how not spending enough family time with your kids and letting them spend too much time with their electronics or friends can negative responses in children. That is why children start to act up or get in trouble when they don't get enough attention from their family.  They also stray because they are getting too many influences from friends instead of parents.  You can not depend on children to raise your child when they have not grown up enough to know how to act themselves.  

Why such violence!!

I have heard on the news more than usual about kids killing or getting in fights.  I don't understand why it has come to this.  There is a story in my town right now about the school bus drivers going on strike, one parent got on the news and said they understood what the bus drivers were going through and parents should control their kids more, the bus drivers shouldn't have to deal with the bad kids.  It is not the bus drivers responsibility to raise almost grown kids, when there parents should have taught them better when they were younger.  I agree totally with that man that said that.  I have hear stories about what goes on on the school bus from drivers and kids.  I can not believe that some bus drivers can't go on their route without the kids getting in a fight or some even having sex on the bus in front of other people.  When I heard that there where kids having sex on the bus, I just thought that they have no respect for themselves or anyone else.  Sex is something that is private and supposed to be special between someone you truly love and want to spend the rest of your life with.  What is with parents these days that don't teach their kids manners or just simply how to act in public.  These days with the electronic devices, the parents need to teach etiquette for using them in public.  People and kids especially can be so rude about having ear phones in while in a store or on the phone.  People should give the person at the counter their full attention because they usually end up holding up the line because they are on their phone, that also goes for the cashiers on the other side of the counter.  I have seen them on their phones or even just talking to their fellow employees holing up the lines and not even paying attention to the customers.  I also hate when I go to a restaurant and their are people who can't even pay attention to their family or the people they are with because they are too busy on their phones not talking but just playing on the internet or texting.  I hate that, what happened to talking face to face someone and enjoying their company.  I think the world has become unsociable when it comes to face to face conversation.
I have recently found this great website that talks about many of the things that I have issues with and try to discuss on this blog.

http://www.richlymiddleclass.com/whyarepleaseandthankyoudivorced/

Crazy Days

I know it has been a long time since I wrote but I have a a very rough time the last year or so.  I have had to deal with trouble at home and a step son who got a little out of control.  He ended up being sent back to his mom's house.  Every time his dad talks to him he just says that he wants to be back here.  I don't know what will come of that, but I will just keep praying for the best for everyone.
  We finally seem to be getting our life back on track.  Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving.