Learning How to Be A Mom

My boyfriend's 11 year old son has decided to come live with us.  I am having to learn a lot in a short time.  It is has been very interesting.  He is having to learn how to respect me and my decisions even though he may not like them and I am not his real mom.  I am having to learn how to let him make some of his own decisions.  It is tough because he is a pre-teen.  I am guessing that it wouldn't be so tough if he was younger.  We also live differently so he is having to get used to our ways.  Even though he was born down in the South where we live he has only lived here maybe 3 or 4 years out of his life and most of his life he has lived up North and they do things a lot different than we do in the South.  They eat different foods, have different manners and just act different.  We are having a little bit of trouble because his mom let him do and listen to a lot of things that his dad doesn't agree with, but it is hard to change his ways and correct them even if we think they are bad things that an 11 year old shouldn't be listening too, like rap music with a lot of cussing in it.  He is a good kid for the most part and scared of getting in trouble, but he is very strong willed and wants to have things his way and doesn't want to listen to adults especially one that isn't his mother.  I look forward to having a great experience in the years to come.

Kids these days don't help women

Today I was at work and was lifting boxes, carrying water jugs and various other tasks. There was a time when a man would go out of his way and offer to help with these things.  So now to my point.   Seems to me the younger generation shows no sign of chivalry.  There was an intern at work who is about 21 years old and he saw me doing all these activities and not once did he ask to help me, he just kept playing on his phone.  I don't know if the kids are not being taught to help others and that men should open the door for a woman and help them whenever possible, or why they are so lazy and selfish these days. It's not just young men, it's the girls too. Most children these days are not willing to stop and help someone that is older than them.  The world is becoming one selfish pit.  I know some of the reason for these actions are because of how there is so much more crime out there than there used to be.  It is not as safe to stop and help someone broken down on the side of the road like you could 30 , 40 or 50 years ago.  If everyone today would help someone out instead of helping themselves, the world could smile a little more.  I feel that so many people today are so angry and bitter.  It makes you feel good when someone is polite and respectful towards you.  If I am in a kind of weird mood and I walk by someone that is speaks to me and is in a good mood it makes me feel better and happier. Not too many people are nice to everyone they pass these days, most just walk past you not acknowleding your existence.

Children today

 I have noticed that most of the children today have absolutely no manners.  (I will follow up on this subject another day). They are very rude and don't consider anyone but themselves.
 Because most of them only want to play video games they don't develop some of the skills they need to survive.  They need social skills, they need to go outside and get and skin their knee or get in a fight every now and then.  These things toughen children up.  Now days there is padding everywhere, Playground, Trampoline, bicycles.  Kids can't be kids today because everything is padded and safe for them.  Kids used to not have to wear bicycle helmets, knee and arm pads.  Kids could jump on trampolines without net or pads around them, I just to jump out of trees onto the trampoline.  I think that too much of this protecting the kids is making them soft or not being able to fend for themselves.  Kids are being protected too much that is why so many of them are still living at home, not finding a good job being successful and being able to survive in the world without their parents or grandparents support.  Kids today just don't seem to want to work, they are very lazy.  Is this the cause of the parents doing too much for them?

What is wrong with the world today?

I have decided to start this blog to post my opinions with what is wrong with how people live today.  I'm not saying I'm perfect but I think a lot of old traditions and actions have gone out the window with people today, if we stuck to some of those everyone would be happier and safer.  Some old ways; like how we teach our children, talk to others and just be good neighbors to everyone nobody does anymore.  I will try to post something almost everyday about something I think we should change and how it will help our society today.